Casual sex
The head is splitting with pain, barely half-open eyes could barely recognize the environmental reality, but all distinctly visible sound man lying next to … So, you’re not alone - it is a fact.
According to a survey conducted annually by the production of condoms, 45% of respondents had a casual relationship at least once in their lives. If you have not got one of those 45%, the following will help you understand what’s what and what to avoid in a situation of “sex for one night, and if hit, it will help get rid of as many torments, and from many illusions.
As things turned
No matter how it all began - in the bar during one of the hen-party with friends, at discos or in any other place. You started to flirt with each other, quickly switched to “you” do not drink one glass of tequila together, and now the hot hugs, kisses, alternating, which began in a public place, to continue in your / his apartment, hotel room, sandy beach, e1s. Your “seducer” may be as principal macho, Don Juan, Casanova, a stranger to you in everyday life, and an old friend, with whom, how have you been sure until that morning, you’re bound exclusively friendly relations. In principle, you can continue, but certainly curious to know what has brought you into this situation of sex for one night? There are at least three explanations:
1. Banal reluctance to be one that night. Many of us alcohol acts not only exciting, it also brings the need to be loved, feel wanted, beautiful … It turns out that you create a fairy tale itself, the essence of which - an escape from reality, which you for some reason are not satisfied. Most likely, this night will bring you a lot of disorders in the future, because deep down, apparently agreeing with the rules of “one night”, you’re hoping to get around them and win the lottery, where prizes are valued stable relationship people loving each other. However, the percentage of such “win” tends to zero from the outset, because it is the freedom from the obligations and the realization that this person in your
life just for one night, fueling interest in a partner and a “highlight” of this adventure.
2. “Revenge” my boyfriend. Most unconstructive cause of all these. Suppose you had a fight with her boyfriend, and “in retaliation” he decided to commit adultery with the first counter. Believe me, relieved you have sex with a man not unfamiliar bring. Even if your boyfriend has changed you, do not respond in kind. First, you do not mend relations with her boyfriend, and in -
Second, you’ll feel much worse after a perfect act of “retaliation”. In any case, you should not stoop to his level, you probably lose your self-esteem and self-esteem than the taste of victory on his lips. If for any reason you are still unfaithful to her friend, and now regret it and do not know what to do - see below.
3. The desire to try something new, something that you’re a long time considered taboo, forbidden fruit, ie You pushed the simple curiosity. Well, at the time Eve and Adam suffered for the same reason. Of course, from the Garden of Eden you no runs, but there is also no promise of heavenly bliss - experience does not prove that sex is a one-night extravaganza will be the most sex in your life. However, you yourself can try to do it that way. How? The correct attitude to this process, with the right partner in the right environment to completely relax and surrendering to the will of the emotions and feelings
What is and what not to do in this one night
Sure to use a condom. Even if you are taking oral contraceptives, they will only protect against unwanted pregnancy, and from all other “undesirable” will help avoid condoms. Sama think how much money can go for treatment - and agree that you can spend them on the best goal. If you still do not use protection during sex - home made morning douching preparations “Myramistin”, he will destroy some of the harmful bacteria, and be sure to go down to a consultation with a gynecologist. 3. Now, about the romance - not worth it to wait for a random partner. If he brings coffee in bed or Alka-zelttser with a glass of water, is good, but to expect such behavior from him you are not entitled. He did not ask you to wash his socks or shirts ironed. No commitment - the first rule of one night. Get pleasure from the process - you have the opportunity to realize one of the most common female sexual fantasy: sex with unfamiliar men. But always try to remember their safety. Unfortunately, the daily statistics on rape - history of the same life, where there is a stunning sex.
Do not get too confidences and tell the whole story of his unhappy life of the beautiful stranger - after all you are gathered here not to do so. Such conversations are fraught.
Aggravating circumstances
If you have a boyfriend, and you for any reason, spent the night not with him, think ten times before you tell him about it. This does not appeal to lie, sometimes ignorance is necessary. Especially if you’re going to save your relationship. Analyze the reasons that prompted you to treason, think that it is necessary that this does not happen again, and to maximize the silence around their adventures. Of course, if you think your relationship open and honest, you can tell your friend about what happened, but 99% out of 100 understand we should not expect, even if thy treason - revenge for his adultery. Sometimes it is better to break little secret with a close friend.
If you slept with his old friend, which is one of the favorite subjects for screenwriters, we should not rush to repentance and “noble” break every relationship. On the one hand, continue to be friends after sex may be proved in practice - most importantly, it should want both. On the other hand, in the stories of your friends and acquaintances surely there is at least one story, when casual sex with a close friend of growing into a beautiful romantic story with a happy ending.
Almost impossible to predict whether you in the joy of casual sex one night, but if you’re still tempted, take it as an adventure and follow two rules to stay in the winners: remember about their safety and not to raise false illusions
